Going through a divorce is said to be among the most painful experiences that a person can go through. Once the divorce is finalized, many people find that they don’t experience the immediate relief and happiness that they were expecting. The fact is, the end of a divorce is really just the beginning of your recovery and rediscovery period in your life. If you are looking for some effective ways to help see that ‘light at the end of the tunnel’ consider the following six proven ways to help you move on.
Focus on Your Health
The end of a divorce is a perfect point in life to really take an assessment of your health, and make changes for the better. No matter your current health situation, there are always improvements that can be made. Find a diet that can work for you, start exercising more, consider some mental health exercises. There are plenty of things that you can do to get healthier, and in addition to benefiting your body, they will improve your mind as well.
Join a Post-Divorce Support Group
There are millions of people who go through a divorce each year, but despite that fact, many of them feel very alone. This is exactly what post-divorce support groups were made for, so make sure you take advantage. There are groups designed just for men, just for women, and those that are co-ed. Find one that works for you, and get the support you need. This is also a great place to meet new friends that will be there for you in the years to come.
Don’t Hesitate to Ask for Help
While married, you likely had a nice routine that made it easier to get things done. While you were undoubtedly busy, things tend to run fairly smoothly with that routine. A divorce will, of course, throw a wrench into a lot of what is established. You need to set new routines, and where necessary, ask for help. Friends and family are almost always happy to step in and provide support, care, and assistance when it is needed. Don’t be afraid to ask.
This is sometimes the most difficult thing to do, but studies and thousands of years of human experience show that it is essential. Forgive your ex for the pain they caused. Forgive any friends you ‘lost’ in the divorce. Forgive anyone else who has hurt you through this process. Perhaps most importantly, forgive yourself. Even if you don’t feel like it, or feel any better initially, practice forgiveness every day, and things will get easier.
Set Goals for the Future
It can be hard to move on from a divorce when you’re constantly thinking about the past, or even how to deal with the present. To help get through this, start setting some goals for the future, and take steps to achieve them. Plan a vacation, think about a new job, look at options for the upcoming summer. Anything you can do to focus your mind on the future can be very helpful.
Rediscover Lost Passions
Almost everyone who gets married ends up sacrificing at least some of their passions in the marriage. This isn’t a bad thing at all, but once divorced, there is no reason not to pick it back up. If you loved frisbee golf before marriage, but haven’t done it in a few years, why not start again? Did you used to play an instrument, but didn’t have time anymore because of your marriage and children? Start again and see how it feels! Anything you once enjoyed can be a great way to bring joy back to your life again.
Every person is unique, so consider giving these six things a try, but don’t stop there. Think about yourself and your situation in life. What can you do to help you move forward? Even if it is difficult, you can get through this and emerge in a happy and healthy place to begin the rest of your life. Contact us if you need help with your Maryland family law matter—we are here for you and your family!